Male chastity? Never heard of it. Well, not until a couple of years ago when my husband, John, told me it was something he wanted and fantasised about — being locked long-term and unable to orgasm in a male chastity device.
Now, I am not entirely sure why I’m doing this.
No… that’s not true. I am sure why I’m doing it… but I’m not sure it’s the best thing to do.
My name is Sarah.
I’m a normal married woman living with my husband, John. At least, I was.
I mean I’m still living with him, and we’re more in love than ever before… but it’s not what you’d call normal, not by any stretch of the imagination.
Because about 2 1/2 years ago, John confessed to me he wanted to be, and I’ll use his words, “locked in long-term chastity“.
At the time I didn’t know a single thing about it and I was confused, shocked and a little spooked.
He engineered the whole thing quite well after reading how someone else had done it on a forum dedicated to male chastity (not that I knew this at the time, as you’ll discover).
What he did was suggest we each write down our favourite fantasies, swap them, and then act them out for each other.
So that’s what we did, and he read mine and looked suitably impressed… then I looked at his and…. he’d written only one… and everything’s been a bit strange ever since.
What he wrote, and I have the paper in front of me as I write this, was “I want you to lock me in long-term chastity and have total control of my orgasms. I want you to tease me and deny me and make me please you in any way you demand while I’m locked.“
I was a bit taken aback by this and didn’t really know what to say. I’d never even heard of male chastity, and when I thought of a male chastity device I got an image of some rusty old iron thing forced upon a stern Victorian man’s wife.
Or perhaps something from the Middle Ages and the Crusades.
We talked about it for a while because I really had no clue about what it entailed or anything else. It turned out his idea of “long term” was no exaggeration… “months or a year, even longer“, he said.
Male chastity was something new
Over the next few weeks we carried out a few of my top fantasies (mind your own business!), while I researched John’s, both on my own and together with him.
I have to say, he was very good. Not pushy with it, although I could tell how keen he was.
We started off, at his suggestion, by my just refusing to let him orgasm when we made love. I'd teased him before, of course, but never gone as far as full orgasm denial. I felt a little guilty, even though he'd asked me to do it.
This was partially successful because even this turned him on so much, he wasn’t able to control himself, and to be fair at that point it was very hard for me to get my head around the idea I could (and was supposed to) simply tell him “stop!” and he would. I suppose I was half-expecting him to react by getting angry or sullen or something like that (you know what men can be like, don’t you?).
But he didn’t at all, not once.
If anything he got more frustrated if I didn’t put my foot down, so to speak, and tell him “stop!”
One problem with this is when we’re making love, I’m not necessarily too clear-headed myself, so I tend to forget what I’m supposed to be doing.
And of course… none of this stopped him from being able to masturbate, and I’m positive he did. After a week or so of being told “no” and being made to stop mid thrust, he was far too horny not to, I think. I have no proof, and I’ve not asked him, but I know him so well…
While all this was going on I was researching more, looking at male chastity devices and belts and basically coming to terms with it all.
After my initial shock, I wasn’t exactly against the idea totally, but it did seem a bit weird if I’m honest.
Having said that, the idea of male chastity did start to grow on me, and that’s when I suggested we invest in a simple device. We looked around and settled on the CB3000 (this was even before the later CB6000 came along, I think).
I’ll pick this up again in my next post.